What Does It All Mean, Anyway? Part II

Just when you thought it was all over… :LOL:
I realized I must have had a lot more swimming through my thoughts yesterday than I had previously believed, because after posting yesterday, I continued to think on the matter, and discovered many more points that I wish I could have made, and a few other points that just refused to remain where they lay, so I decided I had to make a second post to try and make sense of everything I was thinking.
In the previous post, I mentioned how perhaps we had evolved in such a way that we NEEDED someone else to survive, no matter what the cost to ourselves or others around us. I am talking in particular about a partner here, rather than other family members or friends. Because it just seems like EVERYONE wants to have SOMEONE. And this is precisely where so many of us get ourselves into trouble.
Some people seem to spend their whole lives searching for that ONE special person, the one that can change their whole lives, the one that can make everything right. That elusive “soulmate” that makes us whole, completes our cipher, the one all the love songs croon about. Some of us search our ENTIRE LIVES…without ever finding that person. Wasting a lifetime thinking that we are the ones at fault, that we are unloveable. Years spent feeling alone, without ever realizing that we had our soulmate right with us all the time. WE are our own soulmates. Because, face it, how can anyone EVER love you for just who you are if you have never taken the time to make that amazing precious discovery for yourself? How can you meet the person who will complete you if you are not already whole in and of yourself?
I am not saying we need to be perfect, because we all already know that no one is perfect, nor do we need to have met some kind of “self-growth” quota. But we need to be RIGHT with ourselves. Love ourselves for who we ARE, flaws and all, and be comfortable sharing our flawed selves COMPLETELY with someone else. How many of us are truly easy with that fact? Me neither. But I am getting to the point where the thought of sharing myself wholly and honestly and openly (with myself AND with someone else) no longer terrifies me. Where I no longer think that if I show someone who I truly am, they will run in terror. Yes, I really have thought that way. And if I can begin to turn away from that darkness, then anyone can. And ANYONE can find that person that is perfect for them. They only need to find them in their own hearts and souls. The rest is easy…
Today’s Affirmation:
Let not your mind run on what you lack as much as on what you already have.
– Marcus Aurelius