I didn’t even realize it had been so long since my last entry. I feel almost like I am going through the motions of living in some kind of daze, my mind clouded with a kindly, hazy mist. I think it’s just my own way of dealing with my depression right now. It might not be the best course of action, but I confess I would rather feel hazy than sad.
Gregory’s birthday was on Saturday, and, although it was raining, it went quite well. I had to get a bit creative in getting him presents, because what he WANTED was GameBoy Advance games. I don’t think I had mentioned it on here, because I was so upset about it, but Gregory managed to lose his not only his GameBoy Advance, but every single game that went along with it. Apparently the last time we went to the laundromat, he left behind his tote bag with all those things inside, and noone seemed to be kind enough or ethical enough to turn it in.
So, yes, I am pretty upset. I was even extremely angry. But, I had to step back and look at it more as a lesson for him in responsibility. Yes, I paid quite a bit of money for all of that stuff. And it sucks. And I don’t have the money to replace even the GameBoy, much less the games that went with it. But even if I could replace it, I would not. This is not the first time my daydreamer-boy has left behind something valuable or important. I have no idea when or if he will learn to remember things without me right behind him reminding him, but it needs to be soon. As much as it pains me to witness his disappointment in himself, all I can do is be there for him. Does anyone know of any suggestions to help him improve his memory in these matters? Other than never buying him anything valuable? :LOL:
I really feel proud of myself for the way I handled things regarding this issue, as well. I kept my temper, and although I fully expressed my anger and disappointment, I made it VERY clear that my feelings were for his ACTIONS, and not him, and that I wanted to help him. Not that it did much good for his smart mouth. The last time I mentioned his GameBoy, he promptly told me to “stop bringing that up.” Excuse me?? LMAO. I guess not every problem can resolved in a day.
So I ended up buying him a laser tag game, which he and the neighbor kids have been playing incessantly, and the steady BEEP BEEP of the chest targets is quickly going to drive me insane. And I got him an electronic pinball game, and then just a few small extra things. Not much for a 10th birthday, but he seems happy. That’s all that matters to me.
Categories: Miscellany
4 Comments
witchy · May 27, 2003 at 12:44 pm
oh, I can SO relate to this! my son and his watch (and no, the first one was one of those super nice “iron man” timax, not a 10$ jobbie), when he lost it, I went almost 3 days without speaking to him I was so angry (not about him losing it, but about his attitude)
I made him buy the next one, which he promptly lost. I’m making him buy another one, and will keep making him buy one, using HIS money (and he doesn’t get an allowance /we can’t afford it/ so every extra penny he gets, is some sort of “present” money). I’ve told him, he’ll keep buying himself a watch (yes, even a ‘cheapo’) till he finally KEEPS one.
same with the girl. 🙁 she loses, to bad, it’s gone, and if you want another, YOU have to save for it.
I have No advice for ya darlin’ on this matter. This is just what I’m doing (for the moment, *G* If something else comes to me, I’ll let you know)
Mean While (back at the ranch *G*) You Did GOOD!! In MY opinion, that’s the way to handle it, don’t hide that you’re very angry, but that you still love Them. 🙂
and trish, send me an e-mail, will ya?
(oh, and the depression, sometimes, that’s the best way to handle it 🙁 I’d be afraid of what I’d do, if I allowed myself to “feel”)
Rose · May 28, 2003 at 5:41 pm
You did handle the situation very well in my opinion. Some things kids just learn better through experience. I hope that this experience does teach him to be more responsible. I am sure that he will remember losing his prized possession like that. I don’t have any advice though. However, it sounds like you are doing the right thing to me.
It sounds like he had a great birthday with cool presents. I remember when the best presents were the ones that made lots of noise.
I hate that you are feeling depressed. I am trying to keep busy, so that I don’t have to think myself. I hope you feel better soon.
tiffani · May 28, 2003 at 9:04 pm
hey tricia, i finally made it around your way. hope everything is well with you. hmmm, no suggestions on improving his memory i think that comes to each individual in time and then of course some never obtain it. i can’t tell you how many things my daughter has lost, but i’m like you, i’m not replacing anything! that’ll definitely improve something….most likely the our financial stability. 😛
take care girl!
Sue · May 30, 2003 at 9:35 am
I think you handled the situation very well! Sending you lots of positive thoughts and love ((((((((((Tricia)))))))))))
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